I posted a Jonathan update on his page.
A Most Embarrassing Moment
So, this starts out like all good embarrassing moments. I was on a “date”. I had gotten sports tickets from work several times over the past few months and my roommate finally threatened to kill me if I didn’t at least try to ask some guy out with them instead of taking her along. So I had stared at the phone for 30 minutes, pulled out the phone list from our singles group, and called him up.
He was a friend of a friend in our church singles group – we had hung out a few times in large groups, I had ridden in his car once, and I had listened to him tell his “life story” over dinner with the singles group. So we didn’t know each other that well, but well enough to feel comfortable with each other. Most of my friends would say he was “nice” if you asked them to describe him, and he had mentioned in a conversation previously that he’d never been to the AA Center, so I figured even if he didn’t want to hang out with me, Mavs tickets would be enough of a draw.
The date was going well – he was savvy enough to think to offer to drive and buy us dinner beforehand, and we had talked pretty much the entire time without uncomfortable silences. I didn’t date much, ok, actually ever, so I was trying REALLY hard not to be a dork. Those of you who know me fairly well know that I tend to be a bit of a nerdish klutz, so trying to be “cool” for a date was a lot of work.
Once we got to the game, we both admitted that neither one of us liked basketball. We had great seats but really didn’t know what was going on. But we both agreed that the little glow sticks on a string that they handed us when we walked in were really cool.
As the announcer started revving up the crowd, they turned out the lights, and we all broke out our glow sticks. As we are yelling and swinging them over our heads by the strings, I leaned over to comment how cool it looked. And lost my grip on my glow stick, which then flew out of my hands, David and Goliath style, down about three rows and hit a large man in the back of the head. If I could have climbed underneath those tiny American Airlines Center seats, I would have. I was mortified!
My date, however, did something I wasn’t expecting. Instead of just laughing at me (which he was, because I was, too), he walked down to the man, apologized for hitting him, and asked for my glow stick back. Because he knew I liked it.
Ok, my carefully planned “Operation Jenny Is Actually Cool, Not a Dork” wasn’t going to work. My true self was going to come out wether I wanted it to or not. But maybe that wasn’t such a bad thing.
And it wasn’t. That was 8 years ago in December. Seven years ago today, I married that nice guy, who thinks my dorkiness is cute, likes that I’m a bit of a nerd, and loves that I’m not a girly girl. Asking Andy out to a game that neither one of us liked was one of the best decisions I’ve ever made.
Thank you, hubs, for the best 7 years of my life. You are the most amazing man of God, and I’m reminded daily of how blessed I am to have you as my husband and father of my children. I can’t wait to see what God has planned for us in the years to come! I love you and am so thankful for you!
Seven Years
Seven years ago today, Jenny and I got married. That sounds like a really long time, but since I married such a wonderful woman, it doesn’t feel like a long time at all. Happy anniversary, Jenny! I am so thankful to be your husband and the father of your children, and I love you very much.
Aging Parents
Jenny’s family is wrestling with a difficult situation. Her grandparents’ health has deteriorated so much that the rest of the family isn’t sure they can take care of themselves and live on their own anymore. Unfortunately, her grandparents aren’t ready to admit it yet, and her grandfather’s Alzheimer’s has gotten bad enough that he doesn’t seem to realize there is a problem. The adult children, including Jenny’s parents, are trying to decide what to do. They want to honor their parents and respect their independence, but they worry about their safety. I think they would be great candidates for an assisted living community. There someone could check on them throughout the week and help out where needed, but they could still maintain some independence.
If our parents live long enough, we could be in the same situation someday, as could our boys when we reach the last years of our lives. I haven’t had to think much about it before. In one sense, it’s a beautiful role reversal – the formerly helpless children become the caregivers, and the parents get help in their final time of need. In another sense, it seems like a terrible, awkward tragedy. How do you tell the parents who raised you that they aren’t capable of taking care of themselves, or take the keys away from the people who taught you how to drive?
When I am old, I will try to be realistic about my capabilities, willing to accept their decline and to lean more on others for help when needed. I doubt it will be easy for me, since I crave self-sufficiency so highly, but I don’t want my own stubbornness to put myself or others in danger. I hope that my family will have the courage to tell me the truth and fight for what’s best for me, no matter how much I gripe about it.
Have any of you been through a situation like this? I would love to hear your thoughts if you’re willing to share.
The Future of Free TV
You might have read about the recent standoff between Time Warner Cable and Fox. As I read a bit more, I learned that this dispute is a symptom of a bigger problem that could change the future of TV. The major networks, which have always provided their shows for free and depended primarily on ad revenue, are making less and less money due to the huge and expanding number of cable companies. Ratings for the major networks are down, advertisers have more choices regarding where to advertise, so the networks can’t charge as much for each ad. DallasNews.com posts an excellent article that explains the problem more clearly. The TWC-Fox dispute arose when Fox demanded that TWC start paying a fee to broadcast its programming.
If the networks’ woes continue, they might be forced to stop providing shows for free, forcing everyone who wants TV service to get it via cable, satellite, the Internet, or some other paid service. Since we use an HD antenna to watch TV, such a change would hurt us (and waste a good antenna). I assume the cost of cable or satellite TV service would rise accordingly.
More people would obtain their TV service through the Internet, which they already pay for. Many people already do so using sites like Hulu.com or the individual networks’ websites. Apple offers some programming through a paid TV service called Apple TV. Apple is currently negotiating with Disney and CBS to add their shows to the lineup.
The next few years should be quite interesting in the realm of TV.
Brenden and the Belly
With just over two weeks before Jonathan will be born, Brenden points to him and give him a kiss/headbutt. At the end he shows off a bit of his patented Bongo Dance.