Observations from a new momma – the one month mark

On Saturday, Brenden becomes one month old – I can’t believe he’s already a month! Here’s some things we’ve learned over the past 29 days…

1. Babies can make something come out of every orifice at the same time. None of it is good.
2. You can go to bed one night, and wake up to a totally different looking little guy the next morning, even though you’ve been up with him every 2-3 hours.
3. Baby cries do sound different depending on what they need.
4. Dr. Ezzo of Babywise fame lied to us. I’m not happy with him.
5. Sometimes, all he needs is to be put down and left alone to ponder the essence of the universe. Other times, he needs to be picked up and snuggled. Most of the time, you have to figure out which one is which on your own.
6. If he doesn’t get good, long, sleep, you are going to have a very bad day.
7. Baths are so much more fun when the water is warm and there’s no sponges involved.
8. It is ok to need a break and to take one when you can. I’m not meant to be at his beck and call 24-7 – that’s not healthy for either one of us!
9. On the other hand, figuring out what he needs, and taking care of it, is strangely satisfying, even when there isn’t any immediate feedback.
10. Brenden is on the verge of smiling for real – I keep trying to get him to look at me and smile, but we’re just not there yet.

If Southwest Worked Like a Newborn

As most of you know, Southwest Airlines is a model of efficiency copied by low cost carriers around the world. As the father of a newborn, I am finding a plethora of inefficient aspects of life with a baby. That got me thinking: what would Southwest be like if our 737s operated like a newborn?

  1. Our fuelers would load the required amount of fuel onto the plane. Then the Captain would open the dump valve and pour a couple thousand pounds of fuel overboard just after departure. A few minutes later, he would dump another thousand.
  2. Because of these fuel dumps, the flight would now be short of fuel and unable to reach its destination, necessitating either a midair refueling or diversion.
  3. On-time departures and arrivals would be a thing of the past. The published schedule would be more of a suggestion. A flight is successful if it gets there at all.
  4. Instead of going several weeks between cleanings, our planes would need a thorough cleaning after every flight, both inside and out.
  5. Every passenger would talk on their cell phone at the top of their lungs for the entire flight.
  6. Both lavs are inop. Always. Hope you brought a really big diaper bag!

Brenden’s Photo Shoot

Jenny won a photo shoot with professional photographers for Brenden! They came out on Saturday and stayed for about an hour, trying different outfits and poses. They were really nice and do great work! They posted a couple of excellent preview pictures on their blog. Please check out these pictures and leave some comments. If they get enough comments, they’ll give us a discount on the pictures. Also, they’ll have a gallery available online in a couple of weeks in case you want to order some.

Observations from a new momma

So, we’ve been doing this parent thing for over a week and a half now, so I thought I’d take a moment to write about what I think. Tonight is also the first night that Andy is going back to work, so I’m flying solo. My observations may be totally different tomorrow. 🙂

1. Labor isn’t as magical as the movies make it out to be or as scary as other people tell you it is going to be. In fact, it’s hours and hours of little decisions and repetitive tasks that lead up to the big moment. I was in shock that it was all over once I saw him for the first time!

2. Watching your sweet husband who loves you so well love on your kiddo with the same intensity is very attractive. Men, learn to care for babies. Your current or future wives will be very appreciative. I highly recommend a tour of duty in the church nursery.

3. Little personalities do come through from the womb. He’s as laid back now as he was before he was born. He’s also a bit of an introvert – too many people at once causes a meltdown.

4. I still don’t think that this little tiny person came out of my body. I think we just went to the hospital and picked out a good one and brought him home.

5. Even when they don’t know what they’re doing, baby smiles are precious!

6. Umbilical cords are weird.

7. Breastfeeding is an amazing invention by God, but it requires you to totally rethink the way you look at your schedule. All of a sudden, you have a standing hour long appointment every three hours, and no one else is going to be able to take your place.

8. I still have moments where I look around and think, “where are his parents?”, and then it hits me – I’m not babysitting this one!

9. Before we found out we were pregnant, we were actually starting to pursue adoption. I remember one day about a week before we found out, seeing a baby picture of Andy and thinking that the one thing I was going to miss through this process was seeing what a child of Andy’s would look like. God’s sense of humor never ceases to amaze me – a child of Andy’s looks just like Andy. Just like the picture I was looking at!

10. I cannot get enough of his feet! I just want to mess with his toes all the time, and it makes me sad to put socks on him.

11. Brenden looks really good in green.

12. He’s already changing and growing – he’s working on a double chin and chubby legs. I think he’s going to be a chunky monkey!

13. Most newborns love to be tightly swaddled, with their hands basically pinned to their sides. Brenden likes the swaddling, but he has to have his hands near his face, and works them loose out of even the tightest blankets. He’s a little Houdini.

14. I have never been so hungry or thirsty in my life – breastfeeding wears you out! My friend Brittney warned me about the thirst, but I didn’t realize how bad it would be until I woke up my first night home and thought someone had filled my mouth with sand. 🙂

15. I love snuggling with him when he’s tired – that doesn’t happen that often, but it’s such a special moment when he’ll snuggle.

Three Generations of Boxes

I didn’t realize this at first, but Brenden is the first male Box in the generation after mine. I have a few cousins with the Box name, but all of them either have no children or have girls. So at least for now, it’s up to little Brenden to continue the family name. No pressure, buddy!

Here are a couple of related pictures that I found after I put together the first gallery. One shows three generations of Boxes: my dad, me, and Brenden. The other shows Dad (now known as Grampy) and Brenden. Since Dad is our family photographer and often has a camera in hand, he doesn’t show up in many of our pictures. He actually took many of the pictures in the gallery from yesterday.

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